Today Iím writing to offer you some simple tools
for overcoming your stressful relationship with food and body image. The process
of recovery is quite simple. There are a handful of steps that allow you to
safely put one foot in front of the other and walk from the distressing diet
mentality to the freedom of natural eating. Natural eating simply means eating
when youíre hungry and stopping when youíre full.
The first step on the path to make the change
from the diet mentality to natural eating is to allow yourself for one day to
just stop what youíre doing and ask yourself 3 or 4 times a day (especially
before you eat anything): ďAm I physically hungry right now?Ē
There are key 4 ways to answer that question.
No so I wonít have anything.
Yes, but Iím not going to allow myself to have anything.
No, but Iím having something any way.
I donít know.
1. Number one takes care of itself, itís a
non issue. Letís take a quick look at 2, 3 & 4.
2. If the answer is ďYes, but Iím not going
to let myself eat.Ē Stop and ask
yourself why? Your body is sending you a clear signal that, regardless of when
your brain things itís acceptable to be hungry, itís hungry now.
Does it make any sense whatsoever to argue with your body about that?
Your body is not out to get you. It
is simply letting you know what it needs in order to continue to meet the
demands you are setting for it.
So if you are resisting eating when your body
is telling you it needs food just ask yourself what you are telling yourself
will happen if you honored the natural signals of hunger from your body?
Be honest with yourself and ask yourself if that story youíre telling
yourself is true or just what you fear might happen. Thereís a big big
difference. (For more information on this process see my blog article on All or
Nothing Thinking @ http://www.compulsiveeating.com/blog/?p=16
3. If the answer to the question ďAm I
physically hungry right now?Ē is no but youíre wanting to eat anyway,
youíre emotionally eating and there is an underlying need for physical or
emotional security that you are seeking to meet in having that particular food
at that time.
4. If the answer is ďI canít tell if Iím
truly hungry or not.Ē Youíre not.
Encourage yourself to wait until youíre
certain that you are physically hungry. There is no uncertainty about that.
Youíll feel empty physically; youíll have a growly tummy; if youíve left
it quite a long time before eating youíll likely also feel cranky, tired and a
bit shaky - a.k.a. hypoglycemia: low blood sugar.
It is important as you begin to experiment with
inviting yourself to wait to eat until you truly feel phsyical hunger that you
have with you at all times snacks that you enjoy and that you can eat as soon as
you start to feel true physical hunger.
This exercise alone will reveal to you the true
extent of your disordered relationship with food. It will show you immediately
how often you use food to cope; how unconscious that pattern has become; and it
will even reveal to you the relationships or situations that are likely to
trigger you to feel unsafe or insecure.
This is incredibly powerful information to be
able to gather in just one day. It sets the stage for you to safely and forever
change your use of food to cope and to begin to have a life that is truly
peaceful and completely free of food and body image issues.
Michelle Morand holds a
Master of Arts degree in Counselling from Gonzaga University and is the director
of The CEDRIC Centre where for 15 years she has supported men and women world
wide to heal their stressful relationships with food and body image once and for